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posted: Saturday the 24th of June, 2017 08:45:53 AM
it is true, however, that casting a critical eye on how my peers live their program and the consequences, positive or negative, that are manifest in their lives, is certainly a means to bettering my program and life. if i stopped right there and did not judge the whole person based on what i perceived, i would stay on the spiritual path and tolerance rather than bigotry and prejudice would reign supreme. i have been “stuck” in a cycle of anger and resentment lately, and that has manifest in my behavior in various unsavory ways. sure i would like to be some sort of recovery guru, but the truth is, i am not, i am just another recovering “garden variety” addict, in a room full of people just like me. they are more than likely judging the quality of my recovery, based on how i act, what i say and what i do or do not share. once, not so long ago, that drove me to share all sorts of nonsense ➥ bumper stickers, slogans, clichés and the edited version of what i was going through. i may not have shared for the newcomer, but i certainly put on a performance to look like something more than i was. of course the flip side, was then to go all cynical and dark on my peers, and only share the scary places i have been and the dankest parts of who i thought i was. learning to find a middle ground, is a task i have undertaken, seemingly unconsciously as i work towards a better understanding of who i am and what i put out for others. somewhere between Pollyanna and Negative Ned, lies the real me. and i am on a journey to find that person, so i can show him to my peers, family members and those i interact with on a daily basis. learning to listen to what i consider to be the most odious members of my local fellowship, instead of dismiss when they say “i am an addict and my name is&hellip” is certainly a goal that is engendered in this reading this morning.
i know where the behavior comes from, FEAR. the FEAR that i am not good enough and i need to diminish others in my eyes, to feel better about myself. what i once did out loud and loudly in crowded rooms, has been exiled to my head only, which i s certainly progress. living a program of recovery is teaching me that tolerance is my path to acceptance and just for today, let's see how far i can get.
∞ DT ∞
While the author is a member of a 12 Step recovery fellowship, these writings are not intended to endorse or express the published wisdom of any fellowship.
These writings are not meant to be socially or politically correct, and if you take issue with any opinions expressed, please seek the guidance of someone wiser than me.
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∑ ever reminding me, ∑ 789 words ➥ Tuesday, June 24, 2014 by: donnot
⁄ i will strive to ⁄ 688 words ➥ Wednesday, June 24, 2015 by: donnot
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☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
Translated by James Legge
2) Shrinking looked they like those who wade through a stream in winter;
irresolute like those who are afraid of all around them; grave like
a guest (in awe of his host); evanescent like ice that is melting
away; unpretentious like wood that has not been fashioned into anything;
vacant like a valley, and dull like muddy water.