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Fri, Jun 3, 2005 06:12:45 AM
∞ indirectly repairing the damage done ∞
posted: Fri, Jun 3, 2005 06:12:45 AM
of course this reading does not apply to me this morning, i no longer have to make amends because i am no longer causing any damage. NOT!
it was nice reminder to me that any amends i may make directly needs to followed-up with indirect amends that change the way i think and behave, otherwise i will keep doing the exact same harm. hurting, amending and hurting again, by any definition a cycle of insanity.
so although i do not have a whole lot to say on this subject today, i will say that i need to be reminded that living this program means more than apologizing when i cause damage, i need the desire to change and grow. the only way i will build that desire is to change my attitudes and alter my behavior -- better thinking through action.
∞ DT ∞
it was nice reminder to me that any amends i may make directly needs to followed-up with indirect amends that change the way i think and behave, otherwise i will keep doing the exact same harm. hurting, amending and hurting again, by any definition a cycle of insanity.
so although i do not have a whole lot to say on this subject today, i will say that i need to be reminded that living this program means more than apologizing when i cause damage, i need the desire to change and grow. the only way i will build that desire is to change my attitudes and alter my behavior -- better thinking through action.
∞ DT ∞
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Another Look!
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☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
by Lao-Tse
Translated by James Legge
Book 1
4) (Those who) possessed the highest (sense of) propriety were (always
seeking) to show it, and when men did not respond to it, they bared
the arm and marched up to them.