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the assets my peers possess rather than their less than stellar attributes is certainly an activity i could adopt today. it is true, i am generally pretty cynical and can be a **Gloomy Gus.** i accept and yes even embrace that as part of my identity. i used to think that i needed to have that removed, as if it were some sort of cancer or certainly part of my inventory of character defects, but my last set of steps, allowed me the freedom to let go of having to change who i am and just be me. once i stopped playing this positive/negative game with my attributes, i got the opportunity to allow my peers, acquaintances and loved ones to just be themselves as well. i may think the “ministry of wealth” and “law of attraction” are pure bullsh!t but that give me no right to foist my opinion on those that believe.
the reading speaks to judgement and pigeonholing, as if judging the behavior of another automatically leads me to dumping them into a category. in my opinion making judgements of thee behaviors of others is not a bad activity, after all, if i see someone constantly lying to others about what and who they are, i probably do not want to take them at their word. on the other hand if i see a peer, doing for others what they cannot do for themselves and never mentioning it to anyone, i certainly can see that they are a valuable asset to have in my corner. i am a firm believer in watching what others do, and seeing how much what they say, actually matches what they do. i could go on and on, but i will not, as my cynic is ready to concede that most people are a mixture of yin and yang, positive and negative, good and evil; and it is not my job to spin dry those out and weigh them on my scales of justice.
what i guess i really want say is that for me anyhow, to cease judging everything and everyone is probably not something that will ever happen, as i do not pretend to be any sort of spiritual giant, i leave that to the Dali Lama. with that in mind, seeing my peers as the flawed humans that we are, i can walk with them as an equal and not peer down my nose at them, as i once was wont to do. it is not the judgement i need to suppress it is my reaction to that judgement that i can and do alter. if a peer asks my opinion of another i can say i do not trust them, instead of they are untrustworthy. keeping my judgements to myself is certainly the next right thing to do. the time to evaluate what sort of relationship i have with another is after i have allowed them to be who they will be and can see their assets as well as their defects, just for today.

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