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Sat, May 25, 2013 08:07:04 AM
ƒ by changing the way i think about the incidents of everyday life, ƒ
posted: Sat, May 25, 2013 08:07:04 AM
i can start to see them as opportunities for growth, not as good or bad.one of the toughest things i am learning to do, is to detach value judgements from the events of my day and especially the feelings that i have, in reaction to those events. yesterday was quite a day full of opportunities for growth and it is my desire that today is not quite as full as yesterday.
of course, i will not pray for that sort of stuff, as i have discovered that asking for events and things in such a non-specific manner often leads to consequences i am ill-prepared to handle.
what was it about yesterday that i found so challenging? without going into specific details, i had three interactions with others, that were not to my liking at all. one of them, as i think about it now, was certainly my stuff and not theirs, and as i sit back and put it into context i realize that even though i DID NOT want to, doing was something that was the next right thing. in fact, judging my behavior in that matter as well as the other two, i was following the spiritual path and giving someone i really do not like at this time, the love and concern i would want is not hypocritical. i treated them with the caring respect that i would like to have myself.
the other two? well they were lessons in tolerance and patience. both of them demonstrate in my opinion, blame-shifting, minimization and living in the fantasy world of untreated addiction. i would not trade places with either of them, and as the time progresses, i will have to make some tough decisions of when to say no. not because i feel “bad” or “good” about them, but because i can no longer be a part of enabling them to live in a world that they seem to think revolves around their needs, wants and desires. their stuff is not mine today and as i move forward into this morning, i am certain that as i draw the boundaries and make them better defined, at least on of them will feel “bad” because of my actions.
anyhow, enough of this rambling and babbling, it is a good day, i have lots to do and i want to be more than i was yesterday. as this day progresses i will do my best tom seize the opportunities for growth that comes my way and learn whatever i can from them, after all, if i am not growing, i am going!
of course, i will not pray for that sort of stuff, as i have discovered that asking for events and things in such a non-specific manner often leads to consequences i am ill-prepared to handle.
what was it about yesterday that i found so challenging? without going into specific details, i had three interactions with others, that were not to my liking at all. one of them, as i think about it now, was certainly my stuff and not theirs, and as i sit back and put it into context i realize that even though i DID NOT want to, doing was something that was the next right thing. in fact, judging my behavior in that matter as well as the other two, i was following the spiritual path and giving someone i really do not like at this time, the love and concern i would want is not hypocritical. i treated them with the caring respect that i would like to have myself.
the other two? well they were lessons in tolerance and patience. both of them demonstrate in my opinion, blame-shifting, minimization and living in the fantasy world of untreated addiction. i would not trade places with either of them, and as the time progresses, i will have to make some tough decisions of when to say no. not because i feel “bad” or “good” about them, but because i can no longer be a part of enabling them to live in a world that they seem to think revolves around their needs, wants and desires. their stuff is not mine today and as i move forward into this morning, i am certain that as i draw the boundaries and make them better defined, at least on of them will feel “bad” because of my actions.
anyhow, enough of this rambling and babbling, it is a good day, i have lots to do and i want to be more than i was yesterday. as this day progresses i will do my best tom seize the opportunities for growth that comes my way and learn whatever i can from them, after all, if i am not growing, i am going!
∞ DT ∞
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While the author is a member of a 12 Step recovery fellowship, these writings are not intended to endorse or express the published wisdom of any fellowship.
These writings are not meant to be socially or politically correct, and if you take issue with any opinions expressed, please seek the guidance of someone wiser than me.
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☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
by Lao-Tse
Translated by James Legge
Book 1
1) When the Great Tao (Way or Method) ceased to be observed, benevolence
and righteousness came into vogue. (Then) appeared wisdom and shrewdness,
and there ensued great hypocrisy.