๐ i will never ๐
Posted: Tue, Sep 6, 2022 08:50:05 AM
stop being an addict, no matter how many steps i work, how many days clean i may accumulate or how socially acceptable i may appear. here is where the excuse fly about why i do not go to as many meetings a i used to attend. the fact is, well there really is no good reason, except i got out of the habit during the pandemic and have filled my evenings with other activities, such as hanging with my spouse and binging TV. 😆
meetings and my attendance at them was not what i heard this morning as i sat. what bubbled up to pop off the stack was the disagreement i have with one of my peers in recovery who i really like. that peer is so totally on the opposite side of the fence in their opinions, i wonder how i can agree to disagree with them. then i remember that i do NOT have all the answers and my opinion is just that, my opinion. when the consensus of the fellowship inches over to their side of the fence, i will support it wholeheartedly. i wanted to correct many of their fallacious assumptions about how things were done and why they are the way they are.in stead i just walked away and allowed them to be in an echo chamber of those expressing the same views. my opinion is that group conscience, no matter how it was arrived at, is more important than my opinion and it is my job to support that conscience, in word and deed. it is also my job to offer my opinion when and if i am asked to supply it for a new or updated group conscience. consensus is never pretty and no one is ever perfectly pleased when a compromise has to be reached to move it forward. when others say that the literature is “off-putting” because of pronouns and seemingly religious concepts and requires a “correction,” i say it is up to the current members to be welcoming and assuage the concerns of those who feel “triggered” by the common language that is currently in use. it is interesting that those who do not care to look for the answers, seem to have the strongest opinions of what needs to be done. anyhow, time for coffee and getting my ass going on work stuff.
meetings and my attendance at them was not what i heard this morning as i sat. what bubbled up to pop off the stack was the disagreement i have with one of my peers in recovery who i really like. that peer is so totally on the opposite side of the fence in their opinions, i wonder how i can agree to disagree with them. then i remember that i do NOT have all the answers and my opinion is just that, my opinion. when the consensus of the fellowship inches over to their side of the fence, i will support it wholeheartedly. i wanted to correct many of their fallacious assumptions about how things were done and why they are the way they are.in stead i just walked away and allowed them to be in an echo chamber of those expressing the same views. my opinion is that group conscience, no matter how it was arrived at, is more important than my opinion and it is my job to support that conscience, in word and deed. it is also my job to offer my opinion when and if i am asked to supply it for a new or updated group conscience. consensus is never pretty and no one is ever perfectly pleased when a compromise has to be reached to move it forward. when others say that the literature is “off-putting” because of pronouns and seemingly religious concepts and requires a “correction,” i say it is up to the current members to be welcoming and assuage the concerns of those who feel “triggered” by the common language that is currently in use. it is interesting that those who do not care to look for the answers, seem to have the strongest opinions of what needs to be done. anyhow, time for coffee and getting my ass going on work stuff.
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