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Sat, Aug 28, 2004 10:27:20 AM
secrets and trust
posted: Sat, Aug 28, 2004 10:27:20 AM
i have come to believe that secrets are more than ablock to the recovery process, that they are a slow, fatal systemic poison that will destroy me.
but the cure is almost as bad, i have to TRUST someone enough to share my secrets and thoughts with.
the good news for me is that i do not have to share these secrets at a group or global level unless i choose to do so.
i still have trouble with TRUST bcause somewhere along my path through life i learned that if i TRUST, i will get HURT and after all isn't protection from HURT what this is all about. not really, what this is all about for me is about unlearning those things that keep me sick and learning how to do LIFE on a day to day basis. that includes taking risks, being who i am, and letting someone know what is going on right now. i am really only as sick as my secrets and just for today i can learn to TRUST someone.
-- DT --
but the cure is almost as bad, i have to TRUST someone enough to share my secrets and thoughts with.
the good news for me is that i do not have to share these secrets at a group or global level unless i choose to do so.
i still have trouble with TRUST bcause somewhere along my path through life i learned that if i TRUST, i will get HURT and after all isn't protection from HURT what this is all about. not really, what this is all about for me is about unlearning those things that keep me sick and learning how to do LIFE on a day to day basis. that includes taking risks, being who i am, and letting someone know what is going on right now. i am really only as sick as my secrets and just for today i can learn to TRUST someone.
-- DT --
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While the author is a member of a 12 Step recovery fellowship, these writings are not intended to endorse or express the published wisdom of any fellowship.
These writings are not meant to be socially or politically correct, and if you take issue with any opinions expressed, please seek the guidance of someone wiser than me.
Another Look!
α freedom from the power of secrecy Ω 263 words ➥ Sunday, August 28, 2005 by: donnot↔ when the secrets are in control, ↔ 274 words ➥ Monday, August 28, 2006 by: donnot
↔ when the secrets are in control, ↔ 319 words ➥ Tuesday, August 28, 2007 by: donnot
μ when i share my secret self in confidence with at least one human being … 179 words ➥ Thursday, August 28, 2008 by: donnot
º when i give in to my reluctance to reveal my true nature º 498 words ➥ Friday, August 28, 2009 by: donnot
› the 5TH Step does not encourage ME to tell everyone every little secret about MYSELF ‹ 894 words ➥ Saturday, August 28, 2010 by: donnot
‡ these defects grow in the dark and die in the light of exposure ‡ 908 words ➥ Sunday, August 28, 2011 by: donnot
→ when i realize that honest sharing is not life-threatening ← 399 words ➥ Tuesday, August 28, 2012 by: donnot
“ Step Five simply suggests that my secrets ” 593 words ➥ Wednesday, August 28, 2013 by: donnot
∗ i can disarm the secrets in my life ∗ 526 words ➥ Thursday, August 28, 2014 by: donnot
÷ light of exposure ÷ 897 words ➥ Friday, August 28, 2015 by: donnot
⇗ disarming the secrets ⇘ 525 words ➥ Sunday, August 28, 2016 by: donnot
🌩 honest sharing 🌪 644 words ➥ Monday, August 28, 2017 by: donnot
👎 secrets cause me 👍 424 words ➥ Tuesday, August 28, 2018 by: donnot
😒 can i disarm 😜 615 words ➥ Wednesday, August 28, 2019 by: donnot
🤐 my secret self 🤔 303 words ➥ Friday, August 28, 2020 by: donnot
🙊 my secrets 🤫 356 words ➥ Saturday, August 28, 2021 by: donnot
😏 i cause 😎 560 words ➥ Sunday, August 28, 2022 by: donnot
🤒 treating 🤕 621 words ➥ Monday, August 28, 2023 by: donnot
☯ The Tao that can be spoken is not the eternal Tao ☯
by Lao-Tse
Translated by James Legge
Book 1
1) He who knows other men is discerning; he who knows himself is intelligent.
He who overcomes others is strong; he who overcomes himself is mighty.
He who is satisfied with his lot is rich; he who goes on acting with
energy has a (firm) will.